I think I was lucky when my old Friend died, because, for some reason, the ambulance came to get him first after two and half hours from the moment I entered his home.
There had been time for Friends to come, for us to say our last bye bye, to sing for him, wish him the best, and hold a circle. Time had enlarged, so we could do what we felt we needed to, shortly but effectively. Police were with us, and silently participated to what they called was “The most beautiful and touching “bye bye” they had ever experienced.
A couple of months ago , one of my Teachers died too. As I was talking to his wife, I told her I felt lucky and was very grateful for that “time”. She was chocked. They had had her husband in their house for two days, and, as she expressed “It was not even enough!”. The family and friends could have used more “time”.
In the “old days”, still in villages and other countries, many Dead are kept for a time in their home, so all who need can come, visit, honor them, and greet them for the last time. In Italy we keep them in the chapel for a while.
There is a little more “TIME” for the departure to be fully felt and understood from all who feel that is right for them to do. Time for prayers, for the psyche to adapt, for sorrow or gratitude to express and thereby heal, whether we believe or not in the “after Life”, or Death maybe was the best that could happen.
What to do, how to change, is it an issue? I do not know, but…
Generally we are robbed of TIME all around in our society.
And we need to take care , and not rob ourselves, or anybody else.
If “Effectiveness is the measure of Truth” (the Huna principles, Serge King) it is probably wiser and healthier to allow “TIME” ( for sorrow, in this case), than use lots of money AFTER to repair our Bodies and Souls, sick from repression and frustration.