At times, when I am lucky, I find good messages all over. This one I have had for a long long time on my table, and I am reading it every day. Who or where it came from, I do not remember, maybe Miguel Ruiz, maybe Byron Katie, maybe someone else…
Anyway, I like to share it with you, for inspiration and reflection. My little paper says:
I was working for a friend some days ago. An important message from my Helpers was that she she should take care of herself with Kindness and Gentleness, which I told her of course.
But then I was wandering about the two words. Was it not the same thing?
Apparently not, since Helpers said both. So I went looking on Wikipedia 🙂 , and I like to share with you.
Kindness seems to contain Amability, showing Consideration for others, it is marked by acts of Generosity and Care, and is not concerned with expectations, rewards, or praise.
Gentleness seems to be more like a virtue, Mildness, “resistance” to brutality, does not submit to tyranni or violence, and responds with tender Awareness to others’s experience of pain. Then of course one can “go deeper”…
Both were described as “concepts” to apply/use on others. But we can use them on ourselves too. 🙂
Gentle Loving (I add) Kindness…how beautiful! Beautiful …Like a Flower.
Let us put a little more of that into our Lives, and our Relations.
Some of us (couples and families), are still, or even more, under pressure, these days.
Not talking about economics, or political situation, the whole rest…
It may feel like corona never ends, it will, but it will take time, and patience until then.
When we are confined from our Freedom, and restricted by forces we have not voluntarily chosen, we FEEL PRISONERS. Even we would rebel , we would still be or feel restricted in many ways. And none of us likes that.
But WE DO HAVE CHOICES, since we are confined in our “inner core”, more or less home, with few around. We still are, in a way, free, free inside.
The closest People (our partner, our kids) may become the focus of our frustrations, and our projections. Our rage may express many ways, and not necessarily be “understood” or “accepted” by them. They too have their own “issues”. All tensions may end by poisoning us, if it goes “wrong”, or by enriching us, if it goes “right”.
WE CHOOSE, not corona, not government, not restrictions.
“Things” to maybe reflect upon, in order not to submit or destroy our Relations, which are most important as the nearest Circle, could be…. (And surely there re plenty more…), to remember that…
Restrictions and what is happening “out there” is NOT what is happening in our Hearts.
(Our Hearts may be sad these days, or heavy, still…)
Our HEARTS, and our SOULS are and always will be FREE AND HEALTHY, whatever happens.
And LOVE, COMPASSION and PATIENCE always win, if there is anything to win, and our People are worth it.
We as Human Beings do have an exclusive way of expressing called COMMUNICATION.
At this moment we do need to TELL OUR TRUTH, masks are not possible when we are pressed together.
We have an opportunity to get to know ourselves and each other deeper, in “good and bad/black and white”, and “silly”, since there is no place to hide.
When we allow ourselves to EXPRESS sincerely, but keeping our Heart with us, WE MAY LEARN AND GROW , both within ourselves and within our closest Relations.
Another instrument we can use is LISTENING, still WITH OUR HEART.
And give ROOM, and moments of REST AND PEACE TO EACH ONE TO BE. It just needs to be taken care of.
We do have NATURE out there, to be with, and recharge.
We have SILENCE to turn to, good books, wise words by wise teachers, creative options, and prayers, meditation, blessings and gratitude to turn to. We got friends we can contact.
Some of us even have a spirituality to turn to. So many treasures!
Let us focus on what WE DO HAVE, instead of focus on what we do not.
And it all will probably be easier. (Well, if I did not believe it, I would not be writing it).
Whoever we are, wherever we live, and whatever we think or believe caused this worldwide thing called corona to “happen”, the fact is that we all are in it, one way or the other.
Exactly like climate change, and many other common issues on our Earth. Going “better” here, going “worse” there…
And whether we believe, feel or think, that we are One Conciousness, or not, we still all have to deal with all the issues, included this one, here in this Life.
Ohhhh! Who am I to speak and to be listened to? Just one of us. Anyone has the right and duty to express, or to remain silent.
I intake my place, “banal, right, wrong, wise”, if all these definitions have a meaning…
So, an “observation” here, you probably also have done…
Where are we? What can we do?
I would love to have a “solution”, but I obviously do not, or maybe I do, or maybe we do?
Maybe we can make “miracles”? In the quantum world, it should be possible.
It seems to me that four main “opposite” directions have appeared, probably more if we look closer.
And most of us move between these, trying to find some kind of balance. And they all are somehow “contagious”, and spread, exactly like corona. So…
Some of us seem to have “understood” and “accepted” that this new “state” we all are deeply involved in, can be used to “go deep into” what we otherwise may have interest in, maybe “difficulties with”, and usually “no time” for.
We “move inwards”, explore, and maybe “learn and grow” (hopefully).
We take the “we got to make the best out of it”, “shit happens sometimes”, or “I do not care, it will pass” position.
We, others, are “frozen” and have become “victims”. We fall into dispair and depression. Isolation makes us numb and passive, or fear disables us from any action or reaction. We are slowly drowning.
We, others, are “embraced” by rage, and engage in “fights” directed outward, and at times also inward.
There is no “right and wrong”, or at least, I am not the judge.
Though the “result” of our position may be of quite a different nature.
Swim, drown, or ban, our choice.
(And let us not be mistaken, we all move through all these, and more, states).
It would be very easy to say this is “my way”, and this is “how we survive”. There are thousands, millions ways to go about. If they work… maybe we got to pick some up and try, or to invent them.
Then, there is the “other dimension” to it, that some of us are into, too.
Transcendence… Moving a little “further away”, observing the Energy of what is happening, and dealing with this however we can, know and believe is “proper”.
And in any case, release or transform the Energy that “hurts us” into the one we can live and be “strong and comfortable” with , without closing our eyes, be false to ourselves, or get stuck in the “silly side” of the ego.
Transcend and sublimate from/in the “we all are One” position. And work in/from that dimension.
All positions will influence ourselves, our Relations, and our World.
Apathy, fear, and rage, are not very productive, when allowed to eat us up. Rage and fear can be transmuted into action that makes sense, without us being a “victim” of them.
And, should we believe that we all are One, let us watch, choose carefully, and do what is needed.
Let us NOT allow this thing, or anything else, to fuck us up!
Let us Live the best we can.
Health, Peace and Love to you, dear People.
foto: a Toad found in a “strange” location, about one meter from ground, in Tree bark. Unusual position, it looked quite relaxed and comfortable there… our goal? smile…